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Just when you think you're in the clear

I’ve heard people tell stories about how they sneak into their child’s bedroom at night and change their diaper without the kid waking up.  I’d like to know what freaking universe these people live in because it’s not my universe.  In my universe little H starts by asking for a drink of water…then begging for a drink.  Then when that doesn’t work I hear “my hand hurts” and  “I need my monkey pajamas” and “move my heater over there” and    ” I pee pee in diaper (she’s dry as a bone)” and whatever other excuse pops into her head to try and drag me into her bedroom.

In the last 3 days hubby and I have spent a total of 7 hours trying to put little H to bed.

We’ve endured a lot of chatter, a lot of screaming and a lot of stress.  Because no matter what tactic we choose, I always wonder if it’s the right one.  Are we doing the right thing?  Are we damaging her psyche for life?

I’m pretty sure she’s going to be fine, but I can’t say the same for myself!  I’m pretty mentally exhausted and it has shown in what I’ve managed to accomplish so far this week which is pretty much….nothing.  Oh well, there’s always tomorrow. Right?

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  1. Oh, my son is exactly the same. We have lots of troubles but what gets us through with (some) confidence in what we are doing is a firm feeling that our son needs to sleep and it is reasonable (ie, not harmful to him) to ask him to stay in bed and try to sleep.

  2. I remember these moments. So exhausting. But it eases eventually. And as long as you’re loving them I doubt any permanent damage is being done. Just be aware, she is manipulating you. The reinforcer for her is your attention. You have to provide attention only when she is doing what you need her to do. I know, it’s easier said than done. Good luck.
    .-= Charles gramlich´s last blog ..Like Mayflies in a Stream =-.

    • Yes she is manipulating me…that much is obvious. She is just so smart, it’s amazing how a 2 year old can outwit me. They do say that parenting is the biggest challenge in life and ‘they’ are right!

  3. Our 8yo is the master at this. He gets one drink, he can use the bathroom, then its’ to bed. There’s no reason to get up after unless he’s bleeding or puking.
    .-= Amanda´s last blog ..Kid Organization – Pak Nak Review =-.

  4. I remember those days!

    Now our 4 year old likes to stall. He has actually said, and I quote, “I can’t sleep, my animals are singing too loud!” Animals = stuffed animals!
    .-= Jessica Nunemaker´s last blog ..Vote for Little Indiana for Indiana’s Top 50 Blogs! =-.

  5. omgosh – my little one is the same way – I have found out this past year – his second – that kids don’t learn this from other kids – its in their genes or something! He starts with water, juice milk then he says, diaper – I went pee pee etc.. I used to fall for it – I go for the diaper (should know better and check first) and he runs around and turns on the tv! Then he goes for the truth “Wubbzy! Watch Wubbzy”! It can take hours! We’re currently in an extended say hotel so I can’t even do tough love like my sister in law suggests – close the door with the night light on. And we can’t have him making a lot of news in protest because we’d be kicked out! So after about the third time I get up to pee and he wakes up too at about 2 am and won’t go back to sleep – we’ve been staying up to five then taking a nap.

  6. My kids are 8 and 5 and still come up with the craziest things they absolutely poitively NEED before going to bed. I wonder if they ever grow out of it.
    .-= Kasandria´s last blog ..***Mom Moment Monday*** Blog Karma + Linky =-.

  7. Mine’s 5 and has yet to give up the stall tactics. The only thing is, we’ve gotten quicker at dealing with them over the years. It’s gone from hours on end to just minutes. I’m sure it will get better for you too!

    I hope you get some rest soon mama!
    .-= Staci A´s last blog ..Balloon Time "Put A Face On Fun" Contest & Giveaway =-.

  8. This is what i do. Put her in bed. Walk out. Go take a shower.

    She will get over it and everyone will be happier for it.


  9. We have the same problem here. We had to set a very distinct routine. We all get PJs on, cuddle in our bed while BG is drinking her milk. BG goes to her bed. DS gets 10 minutes of alone cuddle time and the he goes to his bed. We got a clock for DS that has a nightlight in it with a sleeping character and one that is awake. He knows he’s not allowed out of his room until the “top bunny is awake.” Hope it has gotten easier.
    .-= Frantic Holly´s last blog ..Frantically Linking Thursday =-.

    • ok, you must send me a link to that clock if you can find it online….that is genius! I’m so scared about transitioning her to a big girl bed and I bet having a clock like that would help. Thanks Holly!

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